A Thought on Self-Confidence

 

I posted this photo on my instagram yesterday and mentioned how I used to be so self-conscious of the rather large birthmark running across my ribs (it is hard to see in the photo above with the filter). However, as I grew older and wiser, I came to realize that instead of being embarrassed by it, I should embrace it because this mark is what makes me an individual. This is a gentle reminder to love yourself because despite what social media advertises, perfection isn’t realistic. Instead, I really wish society celebrated the imperfections more often.

Do you know what Enclothed Cognition actually means? I chose this title for my blog because I wanted there to be a focus on building self-confidence within yourself. Working in fashion can get a bad rep because many view it as materialistic and superficial. Yet, if we look at fashion at a different angle, enclothed cognition comes to light and highlights the idea that we can gain confidence by merely feeling good in the clothes we decide to wear.

Listen: My talk on fashion & self-love via the podcast, “The Tao of Self-Confidence”

I wanted to bring up this subject of self-confidence yet again because I think we all should be continually reminded to love ourselves. I started a new installment on this blog a month ago where I interview people and their take on the correlation between how we dress and how we feel. I will be continuing this segment very soon, so please stay tuned! Also, if you have anyone in particular you wish for me to interview, drop a comment down below.

Read: Enclothed Cognition – Claudia Jordan

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Location: Sea Isle City, NJ

I enjoyed a long weekend trip to Sea Isle City, NJ with my family – our annual vacation spot. My family is still there, but I only spent a couple of days there so I could come back to work. Nonetheless, we tried to jam pack as much relaxation into the three days we spent there together. Of course this included several rendezvouses at the beach and indulging in food – one meal a simple hot sauce smothered hot dog and the other an extensive sea food dinner enjoyed right next to the dock.

 

 

 

 

Personally, I wouldn’t choose to keep going to Sea Isle every year, simply because I enjoy exploring a new place, but my parents absolutely love it here and it’s not hard to see why. It’s only a 2 hour drive away from home and it is indeed a real ideal place to getaway for a few days. Not only do you have the beach, but there’s plenty of good restaurants and little activities to keep yourself occupied. The nightlife at Sea Isle is also pretty poppin too. Plus, it’s just a short drive away from Atlantic City, Ocean City, and Wildwood – some other popular New Jersey beach cities. Above all, it was really nice to spend some time with my family. I hope you all had an amazing weekend as well!

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Self-Love

 

 

I have come a long way these past few years of my life as far as confidence goes. I was always the shy girl in school who was often forgotten about and was left to fade into the background, but somehow I summoned the courage to change this. I learned to appreciate every part of me – inside and out. This is certainly not an easy task, especially in today’s modern age.

These past couple of months, I found my self-confidence quietly slipping away. Yes, I was still happy, but I felt a sort of mild anxiety bubbling beneath the surface. I was weeks away from graduating university and although I was ecstatic to be done with my education forever, I did not have a plan and it absolutely terrified me. Friends and family were asking what I was doing after I graduate and all I could do was merely shrug. This is where my self-confidence faltered and I started to question everything. What if I chose the wrong major? Attended the wrong university? Didn’t study enough? Should I even pursue fashion?

This quietly went on for the past couple of weeks and I thought I should just come to terms that I would be unemployed forever (Dramatic, I know). I continued to half-heartedly apply to jobs online, hoping for a miracle. Finally, after what felt like ages, I received a couple of requests for follow up interviews from a few companies. I rejoiced and I finally received an offer last week. I felt so relieved that I could finally provide an answer to those asking about my future plans. My incessant worrying and fears seemed so silly.

Self-confidence is a tricky matter and something that needs to be continually worked upon. It may be diminished with FOMO or scrolling through an instagram model’s feed or from being temporary unemployed and feeling lost. I have come to realize it is just a part of life, but we should collectively do all we can to love ourselves. Here are some of my self-confidence tips:

1. Compliment yourself when you look in the mirror everyday!
2. Play dress up. Find a cute outfit and go out for the day. After all, enclothed cognition is a real thing! What you wear does affect your overall attitude and confidence.
3. Do something you love. Make time for your hobbies!
4. Spend a few hours during the week to spend some time alone and focus on yourself. For me, this is my Sunday night ritual where I like to spend time pampering myself. This means painting my nails, doing a face mask, and listening to my favorite music.
5. Surround yourself with at least one good friend.

 

 

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A Day in NYC

Remember how I mentioned I was going to be in New York for spring break? Well, that trip was condensed into just one day since this Nor’easter just so happened to be at the same time. All the weather forecasts were calling for 12-18 inches of snow in NYC and at my home in Philly. Needless to say, my friends and I thought it was not worth paying for an airbnb only to be stuck inside it for the majority of the trip.

However, we did go on Monday and had an immense shopping trip. We braved the bitter cold and basically hit all the good stores in Soho. I only picked up a new pair of sunglasses from Urban Outfitters and this gorgeous cream bodysuit from Top Shop though. I was kind of in a picky mood, so I didn’t want to buy anything else, but I was very happy with my purchases!

 

We also met up with Diana from Queen Horsfall and she joined us for some shopping and food. We found this pretty good restaurant in Little Italy and the artichoke pizza was amazing! We wandered around with her for awhile, before ending the night with some guilty pleasure fries from Shake Shake. Mmm.

It was a lovely, fun-filled day trip. We were a bit bummed we couldn’t stay in the city longer, but ya’ll now I will be back soon! x

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Currently Loving

Hello, lovelies! Today’s post is just a quick little blurb on some things I have been loving/interested in at the moment. I promise I will have a new outfit post up this Friday, so stay tuned for that!

1. As you might have seen in my last post, I copped the Adidas Ultra Boost in white and have been obsessed with wearing them. To be honest, I am a bit anxious when I wear them because I do not want to tarnish them and wish to keep that crips, clean look for as long as possible.

2. If you keep with all things hype, you might have heard this past weekend was Kanye West’s one weekend only ‘Pablo’ pop-up shop where he only opened 21 stores worldwide. He dropped the location 24 hours before the stores were opened. It’s funny because my boyfriend and I wanted to go shopping and just happened to come across the Philadelphia one at the King of Prussia mall and we had to cop something. I picked up the Ultralight Bean t-shirt so I will definitely be styling that in a future post!

3. Speaking of hype, I was super excited to have my photo featured on Hypebae’s instagram. One of the most exciting features I’ve had so far (even if it’s only my feet LOL).

4. FRANK OCEAN. I am so excited. Finally, the long awaited album ‘Blonde’, formally known as ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ album has released and I could not be more ecstatic. I jokingly said that this album made me question my existence but to be honest it really does. It gets real deep. But if you are into soothing r&b, definitetly give it a listen. His voice is so enrapturing and you will fall in love in a second.

5. Although I cannot really say it is a favorite, I am almost finished reading ‘Lolita’ by Vladimir Nabokov. After hearing the title so many times, I checked it out of the library and had no idea it was about middle aged man and his obsession with “nymphet”, a 12 year old girl, so I was in for quite a surprise. However, it’s a fascinating insight into the mind of main character, Humbert. Not to mention, Nabokov’s writing is absolutely flawless and poetic.

I would love to know what you have been loving as of lately!

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